Breaking up with your one true love can be very difficult and there are ways you can get your boyfriend back.
They decided to leave you and they are prepared to go through your begging and pleading.
Whatever the reason for breakup was, it’s not going to change with your begging. The only thing that begging will do is make you look like a weak and insecure person.
Your instincts will tell you that if you just agree to everything your ex wants, they will come back. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, your values, your desires, your goals don’t matter.
Your instincts will tell you that the only thing that matters is getting your ex back. And for that, you can sacrifice everything.
You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters. Going through a breakup is low-key the best time to rebrand yourself. You can be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want to do, and try anything you want to try without having to consider anyone but yourself.
But considering breakups = losing someone who was consistently in your life, it can be easy to dwell on the past instead of looking at what your future self can bring to the table. Go to therapy It’s time to make an appointment for therapy, suggests licensed clinical social worker Amalia Miralrío. Especially considering an unbiased perspective could offer you insight that you weren’t able to process yourself. Get started with some free options her
If you’ve cut off contact with your ex, you still need an outlet to process your emotions, and a ‘closure ritual’ can help. Try writing a letter to them that you don’t send, suggests Cate. This doesn’t need to be angry, and can even be a time to thank and acknowledge them for the good things they gave you, she adds. “Try reading the letter aloud to yourself to get your final thoughts off your chest, and even rip it up afterwards,” Annabelle adds. This kind of “closure ritual” can be especially useful if you’re the one who broke up with them but still need space to process.
We sometimes underestimate how much meaning we place on material items, so when it comes to your ex you want to take away anything that might trigger negative emotions. “These might even be small, like inexpensive gifts, mementos, cards and letters, or clothing that belonged to your ex,” explains Annabelle. However, “if you don’t want to destroy things like photos, archive them in an isolated file, whether real or digital, so you’re not faced with them every day,”
If you’re not someone who can completely erase your ex from your mind (who can?) then allocate yourself just two minutes when you want to think about them, and then stop, suggests Cate. This way you’re processing your feelings about them, but not letting them constantly take over your mind. It’s also important to remind yourself of what makes you happy, says Cate. “Start a pleasure diary and list your favourite things to do, eat, wear, look at or listen to and consciously engage with them,” she explains.
You might even set a date in your mind that you’d like to be over the person by. But don’t stress about sticking to this.